my wishes for you in 2018

my wishes for you in 2018

On Monday, January 1st, I challenged you to follow what you truly desire in 2018.

Today, I would like to share what I wish for you, based on what I think I know about you based on you being on this list ;)

My overreaching desire is for you to rewrite the story that in the new year there is ANY reason for you to create a "new you." YOU - at your core - are fundamentally enough.

What about New Year, SAME you, more loving relationship to you?

Along those lines...

Here’s what I wish for you in 2018:

  • You call 3 friends, one after another, in a moment of crisis, both allowing yourself to have needs & knowing that they’re there for you
  • You see an advertisement that previously would have tripped you up, it doesn’t phase you, and then you realize that your internal landscape has shifted and you have better walls against the bullshit
  • You took a class in something that you’ve been meaning to try for ages but haven’t because you’re too old / it’s too silly / etc etc etc
  • You look in the mirror and say damn, you look fine!
  • You look in the mirror, don’t feel right about what you see, and are ever so kind to yourself in that moment, smiling with compassion at the fact that you allowed yourself to notice the disconnection
  • You hear something said that doesn’t feel “right”, and instead of letting it slide you have enough resilience to intrude in the moment to share your thoughts, even though it feels fucking hard
  • You go onto social media and see art, ideas and stories that reflect your experience and inspire you
  • You find that magical accessory that feels so YOU and supports you shining bright in the world
  • You host a five course dinner party and feel well-nourished by the food, company and experience
  • You have a moment at work where you feel aligned & seen for what you bring & who you are
  • You go to sleep at night after a day of doing exactly what you want to do
  • You say no to something that is hard to say no to and feel the pride & relief at doing so
  • You consider collective needs when making your choices while also honoring what you need as a critical part of that community
  • You feel that you are enough

In reading my wishes, notice what they spark in you, and feel free to use any of these as inspiration and jumping off points for your own thinking and visioning for 2018.

Wishing you softness & strength in 2018.

My challenge to you in 2018

My challenge to you in 2018

Happy New Year!

This is a time where there is cultural energy towards fresh starts and also really damaging stories that you're not good enough.

It's a time where you can chose to honor, celebrate and to chose.

To be intentional and also invite magic. To know you're not alone, and to ask for support around what you truly want.

Here's my challenge to you -- follow what you truly desire in 2018. And if you don't know, create space to stop and listen.

If you feel creeping "should" energy around how you're approaching the new year, or thinking that who you were or what you did last year wasn't good enough... stop. Cut it out.

Cut the bullshit.

You're enough.

To help you connect to that truth, as you look towards 2018, look back to the moments when you felt like you. When you felt seen. When you felt connected to what you want. Even if they're just glimmers. And move from that place.

That doesn't mean ignoring what needs to change.

Connecting to enoughness does not mean apathy or turning away from reality. It means being really present with reality.

When we accept reality as its unfolding, we can meet the moment with that much more strength and resilience.

So... I just told you to reflect & dream. And guess what... I haven't done that yet! I have a little background noise of scolding within myself that I'm not a good self development oriented person for not doing this yet. And... it's actually okay. I know the moment will come for that reflection and visioning. It hasn't been right for me in my life yet.

We can let the cultural energy of the New Year support us with fresh starts if and when its helpful -- but let's not allow it to become an unhelpful power over us, re-enforcing energies of what we "should" do.

In other words, don't let New Years energy become another oppressive, perfectionist voice of how you need to "do" New Years.

Let it support you, don't let it rule you.

And if you're like me and either haven't reflected on 2017 / visioned for 2018 or want to add to that process, I'll have more for you in the coming weeks. I like to think of the whole month as a chance to really harness collective forward motion.

Sending much love to you, and wishing you so much softness with yourself, your body and your people in 2018. We're going to need it to be strong.

SOFTEN meditation

SOFTEN meditation

Dear Queer Body Love community,

I have a holiday gift for you that I'm really excited to share with you!

Guidance to feel held as you SOFTEN. Specifically, a 12 minute audio recording (transcript coming soon) of me guiding you to get cozy and soften. Think of it as your own mini vacation with yourself. Support to be in stillness with yourself.

I'm all about softening lately (see my latest Instagram post or my latest 1-on-1 offering or my last virtual retreat).

And I know often that can feel really theoretical if you don't have ways to access it in your life right now (and working together doesn't feel right... if it does, certainly let me know by emailing me at elizabeth@elizabethjcooper.comand let's talk!).

And heck, even though I have a ton of tools at my disposal, I also love to be guided and feel held by something outside of myself.

So I wanted to offer to you a guided practice in softening.

The invitation is to wrap yourself in a blanket and really do whatever you want and need to do to get cozy.

You can download the raw version of this meditation for free by putting your name and email address in the box below. This will also subscribe you to the weekly Queer Body Love newsletter, which you can unsubscribe from at any time.

I'll be tidying up the recording a bit and providing a simple worksheet to support the experience and offering that for sale soon.

If you have any feedback, my doors are open.

With much love and softness,


P.S. Photo of the blanket used is by Toshiyuki IMAI